J. (Judith) Lynn (Fredrick) Stanley-Haney, 81 years old, of Storrs, CT, died of natural causes on November 22, 2021 at her home. Lynn is led by her husband Dr. John Haney survived; Siblings, Leah Singer, Charles, and Michele Fredrick; Kinder, Bethany Stanley-Kirschenbaum and David Kirschenbaum, Timothy Stanley and Leigh Frost, and Andrew and Tamar Stanley; and stepchildren John R. Haney and Jeffrey and Christine Haney. Lynn had eight grandchildren and was delighted to have her first great-grandchild in the family earlier this year. Lynn was born in Orange, New Jersey, in March 1940. She attended Middletown, New Jersey public schools and then the Hartford Hospital School of Nursing. After working as a nurse in Boston for several years, Lynn and her ex-husband, Dr. Irving Stanley settled in Storrs, Connecticut, where they raised their three children. Lynn became an adult nurse and worked for the University of Connecticut Infirmary for over fifteen years. While at UCONN, Lynn worked closely with the university’s Women’s Health Clinic to develop and implement a 24-hour sexual assault crisis service for students who have been physically and sexually abused. She became Director of Nursing – Assistant Director of UCONN Student Health Services in 1982, a position she held until she retired from the state. Lynn began her second career in women’s health as a nurse in private practice and school health clinics. Lynn also received her Masters in Psychology and Therapy from Goddard College and began co-authoring protocols for nurses in gynecological settings, a nationally recognized protocol manual, in 1982. The demand was so great that Lynn and her colleagues kept bringing out new editions for 23 years and in 2015 with the 11th support and cooperation with several organizations that work for women and girls. Lynn was a “Jersey Girl” who grew up a loyal New Englander. She was a woman ahead of her time who enjoyed the opportunities to poke around in authority and overcome the social boundaries of her time. She was independent, lively, energetic, cunning, and did not suffer from fools. Lynn was a fashion plate, an incredible host, and an unwavering friend. Lynn raised her three children with a gentle touch and offered tireless support. She performed them conscientiously and deliberately did them with many incredible things – especially in the arts, literature, and science – but she did it without pressure or instigation, trusting them to pursue their interests, make mistakes, and find their way in life . Lynn loved the summer, the beach and her Jersey roots. While her children were growing up, she made annual trips to Cape Cod and the beaches of New Jersey, where she was most at home. As a grandmother, Lynn loved hosting her children and grandchildren in Barnegat Light, NJ for the annual summer passage. Lynn also loved the Maine forests and trips to Moosehead Lake and other adventures with her loving husband, John. Whether enjoying the tranquility of an evening boat cruise or just reading a book while the Loons call in the distance, Maine was one of her favorite spots. In her final years, Lynn was self-deprecating and grateful for the efforts her husband, children, caregivers, and friends made to make their lives as fruitful as possible. She was also an excellent patient! She was never bitter and was always grateful for her position in life. Your family will welcome relatives and friends on Friday, November 26th, 2021 from 10:00 AM to 12:00 PM at the Potter Funeral Home, 456 Jackson St. Willimantic. Her funeral will take place on Saturday, November 27th, 2021 at 10:00 a.m. in the funeral home with
subsequent burial in Storrs Cemetery. Instead of flowers, think of gifts to the nonprofits Lynn has supported: Altrusa International, Roots of Development, and Planned Parenthood of Southern New England. For an online memorial guest book, visit www.potterfuneralhome.com
Published by Hartford Courant on November 24th, 2021.